EP 34 | BREAKING DOWN BARRIERS & DESTROYING ANXIETY: DEAN GRAZIOSI
Episode Summary
Dean Graziosi will answer ten questions in ten minutes!
In this quick episode, you will know all you need to know about Dean, his journey, and his work. Growing up, Dean had to fend for himself in order to help his mom and that led him to who he is today. He teaches people to check on their thoughts all the time, a positive mindset has a great impact on your body and your day-to-day. Your thoughts don’t own your actions.
Tune in and listen to what Dean and Tony’s upcoming challenge is about!
About the Guest - Dean Graziosi
Dean is now a multiple New York Times best-selling author, entrepreneur, and educator. He lives in Paradise Valley, AZ with his wife, Lisa, and his three children. He has started or played a major role in over 14 successful companies that have changed lives all around the world – including the Mastermind.com platform.
Dean’s mission for over 25 years has been to deliver self-education to those seeking transformation, fulfillment, and success outside the traditional education path.
Unlike many so-called self-help gurus, Dean truly desires to deliver value to people, and his passion and commitment are evident at every level. He is not content to simply offer information to make more money for himself; he is seriously committed to helping others improve their lives.
Key Take-Aways
After every failure, there’s a chance to get back up and try it again.
Your thoughts don’t have to control your actions.
Mental illnesses run shallow and very deep within ourselves.
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Kevin Hines:
My name is Kevin Hines. I jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge. I believe that I had to die, but I lived. Today, I travel the world with my lovely wife, Margaret, sharing stories of people who have triumphed over incredible adversity. Now, we help people be here tomorrow. Welcome to the HINESIGHTS podcast.
Kevin Hines:
What is cracking, Hope Nation? It's your friendly neighbor, Kevin Hines, and this is yet another episode of HINESIGHTS, the podcast, that brings you closer to crucial worldly knowledge by interviewing pioneers in their respective fields with conversations lasting just 10 minutes or less, that's right 10 questions in just 10 minutes with some of the greatest phenoms around. Today's guest, Dean Graziosi is a multiple award-winning author, investor, entrepreneur, and trainer, and he is a master change-maker. His mission for over 20 years has been to deliver self-education to those seeking transformation, fulfillment, and success outside the traditional educational path. Welcome to the one and only, Dean Graziosi, so nice to meet you, brother, how are you today?
Dean Graziosi:
I'm doing great, Kevin, man. Good to be here with you.
Kevin Hines:
Thank you so much. Here is my first question. You know, your work is so impactful, you've helped so many people change their lives, obviously for the better, tell us in your own words, who is Dean Graziosi?
Dean Graziosi:
Oh man. Just to probably a young kid who didn't come from much of anything and just had a desire and a dream for more. I guess as a kid, I wanted to have my mother not work so hard. My parents split when I was three, my mom worked three jobs to make nothing. I was a dreamer who wanted more but didn't go to college, didn't come from money, had dyslexia, and just realized that none of that meant anything, meant is the capabilities I learned from people who are successful and then taking uncomfortable action. After you fail, you get back up. Don't listen to the naysayers, don't listen to your inner self-doubt.
Kevin Hines:
Amazing. My next question is a bit personal. Have you ever lived with depression or anxiety? And if so, how do or did you deal with it?
Dean Graziosi:
Really good question. Yes, when I was young, I would bet to say more anxiety than depression. I was so, I had so much anxiety and stress, I was throwing up blood, I had a bleeding ulcer at 12 for a while, but then worked my way through that and found a way to build a strong relationship with my dad. I swore that divorce wouldn't be a thing in my life, but a half a decade ago I went through a divorce and it hit me again. That whole childhood thing came, and if you want to talk about anxiety, I never experienced what anxiety was until thinking that I was going to be with my kids half the time, and I found my way through it. And I'm on the other side and I'm grateful for that and love helping others too.
Kevin Hines:
Beautiful, powerful story. Important moving and definitely will help the viewers watching understand that they can get through it too. So you put hard work into defeating your anxiety and hard work paid off. Dean, you move a million miles a minute, but you take time to reflect and to meditate, you've accomplished so much. What are your top mental and physical health hacks to stay well?
Dean Graziosi:
One is check your thoughts all the time. Your thoughts will drive you absolutely nuts. Your thoughts will tell you you're an imposter, it's not going to work, you're going to fail, the world is going to hell in a handbasket. The fact of the matter is when my thoughts go there, I come back to me and say, I need to own my future, I'm in control of my future. If I succeed, it's on me, if I fail, it's on me, but I'm not letting thoughts derail me. Secondly, as I work on a morning routine every day, get yourself in a place of offense, not defense. And for me, that's little gratitude focusing on what I won the day before, like some wins and what I accomplished and what I want to accomplish that day, what assets I do have in my life, not what I'm missing. So just again, back to your thoughts.
Kevin Hines:
What is the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night before you go to bed?
Dean Graziosi:
First thing in the morning is forced myself not to grab my phone and look at it. The last thing I do before is to go to bed is kiss my wife and my little, I have a one year old boy, probably pray and practice a little gratitude.
Kevin Hines:
Gratitude is key and gratitude is key along with resilience, they are two of the most protective factors against struggling with mental health and suicidal ideation. I always say in my presentations, I get to be here and getting to be here is a gift in and of itself. Dean, I love the video you have about the power of your thoughts, and you briefly touched upon this. How important do you think your thoughts are and why exactly?
Dean Graziosi:
It's everything! Circumstances have nothing to do with our lives. It's our perception of the circumstance. If you focus on what we lost because of COVID, then you're standing around waiting for someone to fix it. If you focus on the opportunity that has existed because of this shift, then you're focusing on a bigger tomorrow, right? One person gets in a car accident and says, oh my god, my insurance is going to go up, my car is a wreck, this is a mess, things will never be the same, the other person gets in the same car accident and comes out of the car and says, there's nobody hurt, it's just tin and metal, no worries.
Kevin Hines:
This is so important to so many, and personally, I'm a believer that our hurtful and harmful thoughts do not have to become our actions as an they don't have to own, rule, or define what we do next. You know, when I was at the bridge that day at the Golden Gate, my thoughts owned my actions, I thought that I had to die. Thus, I jumped over the rail of the Golden Gate Bridge.
Dean Graziosi:
Oh my god.
Kevin Hines:
But today I recognize that even if I have suicidal thoughts, I don't have to act upon them. I have to turn to someone I love and say, I need help now and for 20 years, I've lived with these thoughts, so my question is, would you agree that if we can realize that our thoughts don't have to become our actions, if they're hurtful and harmful, and the negative self-talk is a killer, what's the best way in your opinion to stop the negative self-talk that so many have?
Dean Graziosi:
Well, you know, again, mental illness runs shallow and runs very, very deep. So I'm only going to give you the level of my expertise of what I'd say in my own experiences, and that is I am a very big judge of those thoughts, they come in and I feel, I have my own thoughts, I felt completely helpless again, not suicidal, but more on the anxiety side, it triggered, it triggered that 11 year old boy with the bleeding ulcer, brought back all those memories I was feeling, like I couldn't, I couldn't leave my home, I didn't want to get on a plane, I couldn't sleep at night, I didn't want to be alone, I needed music and I think I was literally driving myself crazy, it was my perception and my thoughts, and I just kept bending the thoughts or proving they're wrong and keep pushing them out, and sometimes it would be a glimpse of a compelling future and then back to the bad thought and then a minute and then an hour and then a day and then a week, so they're going to come back, but proving them wrong and also showing that if I continue those thoughts, life will get worse is what allowed me to push them out.
Kevin Hines:
So important, so crucial. And that also at that point right there can help a lot of people find their hope and find their resilience and pushing those thoughts out. Another question I have is, Dean, is how did your parents journey shape your own?
Dean Graziosi:
I love my parents dearly, but I saw a lot of chaos and craziness. They were married nine times between them, we moved all the time, we didn't have much and they both worked very hard, but the two things, as I got older, I realized that hard work didn't equate to success because they both put in the time, but it's like they were running on a treadmill, so that shaped my life, again, I'd love to say I realized that I knew it immediately, but I really fundamentally knew that the decisions they made didn't serve the best version of them, and I obsessively searched for other people that had different lives, better lives, more successful lives. I think that was, I realized that I needed to change some of the things that I did to become a better man to attract that kind of love.
Kevin Hines:
Who are the people that you looked up to when you were trying to come up in the world and trying to make your way?
Dean Graziosi:
I would say a couple of local people in my little town helped me when I was really young. They were they were successful in my little town of 6,000 people, Mark Millar, Dominic ..., two guys that were doing well, seemed happy, so I looked up to them at that point. And then I'd say, I mean, he's my partner and dear friend, but Tony Robbins changed my life 25 years ago.
Kevin Hines:
Dean, what do you believe is your greatest accomplishment today?
Dean Graziosi:
I broke the pattern of dysfunction. That's the word I'm looking for! My father was sexually and physically abused, physically abused by his father, my grandfather was physically abused by his father, just a lot of, I don't know, I don't know if the right word, a lot of drama, a lot of complexity, and my sister, the same. My sister's got two amazing children, we kind of broke the line of dysfunction in our family. We broke the line of not having money, and my sister and I are both, fortunately, very successful in business, but even more importantly, we're very successful as parents. I have three children, my youngest is one, my older are 12 and 14, they're thriving, amazing young children that I have an incredible relationship with, and they're, they're going to be incredible adults and hopefully impact the world in a big way, so.
Kevin Hines:
Dive in here. What is something you do every day that makes you happy?
Dean Graziosi:
Is I consciously am aware on how I can continue to bond and connect with my wife. Every day, I try to make sure that I'm not just taking it for granted that we have this incredible friendship, love, passion between us and every day when I know I do something to keep that bond strong, it's become a, it's become a huge win for me.
Kevin Hines:
Looking forward to the Own Your Future challenge, you're doing with the great and amazing Tony Robbins in May. And as a bonus question, can you tell us about the challenge and why people should join?
Dean Graziosi:
Yeah, for sure. You know, we did a challenge with Tony in January, eight hundred and thirty seven thousand people showed up to help shift their mindset. The world has shifted, and if you don't shift with it, you could be left behind. That was more of a mindset. Now, we want to help people with their economics because at the end of the day, if you don't own your future, someone else is going to own it. Five days, probably two hours a day. It's not kind of free, it's completely free. We brought in some of our, and I know there's a link we set up called Own It 49, Own It 49, go there and see all the other speakers, Own It49.com
Kevin Hines:
OwnIt49.com. Dean, thank you for all you do. Thank you for being on the show. We went a little past ten minutes, so we'll have to do some editing, but we got this on lockdown. I'm grateful for your time. Thank you for being with us. Ladies and gentlemen, Dean Graziosi.
Dean Graziosi:
Thanks, Kevin.
Kevin Hines:
Margaret and I love sharing stories of people who have triumphed over incredible adversity. For more content and inspiration, go to KevinHinesStory.com or visit us on all social media at KevinHinesStory or on youtube.com/KevinHines.
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